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Saving Marriage With Unconditional Love

What are the essential ingredients in an ideal relationship?

In the middle of a workshop recently a pertinent question was asked about what creates the ideal relationship. We are asked to think of a relationship we had with something in the last week in one's mind was the ideal relationship, and to think of what it was about the relationship that made it ideal.

A number of men in the group thought of their cars, tool sheds, families, workmates, old friends, even relationships with objections such as their television remote, recliner chair, or favorite pair of shoes.

Healing From the Pain of Divorce

Divorce. Shock. Shame. Guilt. Anger. Bitterness. If you have been hurt by divorce it's very likely that you have experienced several of these emotions. Divorce is a very painful place. But there is healing for the pain of divorce. There is life. There is hope. There is laughter. There is forgiveness. There is wholeness. 

Experiencing loss is never easy. Losing a marriage, losing close friendships or losing financial resources requires significant adjustments. To begin the journey towards healing from the pain of divorce means being willing to grieve.

Crossroad C.A.R.E. Outreach Center

I was encouraged this morning reading Dr. Charles Stanley In Touch Devotional for Monday, December 9th. Though today is December 8th the message resonated with me and I gladly received it. 

"When Things Seem Impossible" was the title. In the devotional Dr. Stanley wrote about a time when his church was preparing to purchase some very costly property. Like many churches, they didn't want to go into debt. At that time they didn't have all the they money needed. Actually, they had less than half.

Footsteps Divinely Ordered

Few weeks ago driving down the highway I looked in my rear view mirror and noticed "flashing lights". 
In the words of  Madea, " it was the po-po" or in other words a state trooper.

I pulled over went through the procedures and was given a ticket. It wasn't a speeding ticket.  My car tags were expired. Car inspection was overdue. My mistake. So, after issuing the ticket the officer informed me that once I've taken care of the matter I should submit proof prior to my court date.

Where healing waters flow

Have you ever used the expression, "When it rains it pours?". 

People are most likely to say these words when it seems that it's one thing after the other. The car breaks down. The job lays you off.  You get a phone call about the passing of a loved one. Your computer crashes right in the middle of a major project that's due with a few days. You discover your gut feelings were right, your mate was being unfaithful. You didn't get the promotion you hoped for....

I'm sure that you can add a few things to this list because there are times in life when the storms of life are raging.

Determine What You Really Want

Everyday in life we make decisions. From the moment we open our eyes until we go to bed in the evening. In every area of our lives we are constantly making decisions about what to do, where to go, how to do certain things. The greatest thing we can do for ourselves is learn how to determine what we really want. 

King Solomon made some very costly mistakes because. He pursued too many goals at the same time. He had been seeking fulfillment yet he didn't know why he wasn't fulfilled. King Solomon reached a high level of success and yet he still felt empty.

The beginning of my story

In 2004 while sitting in class at the New York Theological Seminary God began to speak to me. One might refer to it as having a God moment or hearing a Word from the Lord. Either way, there was no doubt in my mind that I had just had an encounter with a very real God.

I wasn't dreaming and there was no reason for me to think it was my imagination. God really does speak but when He does it's up to us to hear His voice.

My professor was lecturing and as she was speaking I heard a still small voice.

Restoring Families, Reclaiming Youth

Mass shooting, fatherless homes, sex trafficking and child sexual abuse cases like the Jerry Sandusky trial are very troubling situations. Things are happening so fast that it can almost make your head spin. Fear and anxiety has been gripping the hearts and minds of children for years. But no one is really talking about it. Well, I want you to know that we must find comfort in the words of David in Psalm 50:15, "Call on me when you are in trouble and I will rescue you". It is during perilous times like these that we must cry out to God for our families.

Steps Towards Freedom

Are there any situations in your life preventing you from being "you"? 

Underneath all of the junk that life throws our way there is someone really beautiful. That someone is "you". I want to encourage you to know that wherever you are today on your journey there is more to life than what you see. There is more in life for you than what you've experienced so far. 

Perhaps there is some pain preventing you from being who you were born to be. Did you know that we were born to create?

Bringing Children to Jesus

During my morning devotions I read about parents bringing their little children to Jesus. "One day some parents brought their little children to Jesus so he could touch and bless them" (Luke 18:15). I begin to think about the parents. They obviously knew something about Jesus. I don't believe that these parents would have brought their precious children to Jesus if they had not believed that Jesus loved the little children. I also believe that these parents recognized who Jesus was.

Focus on where you're going

Everyone has a story to tell. There is not one person on planet earth that hasn't experienced pain.
It is a part of life. Growing up my mother  use to say, "You don't have to look for trouble because trouble will find you". She taught us to avoid looking for trouble and how to stay out of harms way.
Tests, trials and harships has a way of producing something in you that may not have been produced any other way. Recently I shared with someone that not everybody has to go to the school of hard-knocks.

21 Reasons to Join The Innocence Revolution

The Innocence Revolution is slated to be launched throughout the World on April 14, 2013. This is a global crusade to end the crime of child sexual abuse. People from all walks of life will unite and energize a coalition or organizations and individuals to sustain a global effort to end sexual abuse of children. 

We are inviting people to participate in this historic event. I believe that this will be one of the greatest healing movements that will ever take place. This is what the world needs NOW.

The Innocence Revolution

Are you a survivor of child sexual abuse? You're not alone. There are over 42 million adult survivors of child sexual abuse in America alone. Experts also estimate that 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys are sexually abused before their 18th birthday. Do you know what this means? In any classroom or neighborhood full of children there are children who are suffering in silence due to sexual abuse.

If you are an adult survivor of sexual abuse I would like to invite you to be part of one of the greatest movements that I believe will change the world.

God Speaks Through Dreams

Are you a dreamer? A few years ago God started dealing with me in dreams. It was during a very dark season in my life. I was going through so much in almost every area of my life. It was certainly a wilderness season. I've come through some tests since that time. But I don't think I've ever been through a season like that one. There are some test, trials or seasons you just don't want to repeat. That was one.

But at the same time can I tell you something? During that extended trial I learned some things about God that I otherwise may not have known.

Are you worried?

Is there something you're worried about? Sometimes we worry, but worry doesn't please God. I'm not suggesting that you deny when there's a problem. That mountain that you're looking at may be staring you right in the face. It might even look impossible. At the same time, there isn't a mountain that can't be moved in your life. Your problems are real. But they are temporary and subject to change. This is why we are told to be anxious for nothing and pray about everything.

Are you bleeding?

There was a woman in a crowd of people. You can be in a crowd of people and still be wounded, hurting, broken, barren and bruised. This woman suffered for 12 years with constant bleeding. The Scripture doesn't tell us what her name was. May I submit to you that you don't have to a woman to experience blood loss. There are many people today who are bleeding, men, women and children. 

What are some of the instances that can make a person bleed? If you've ever heard word like, "You're never going to be nothing, I hate the day you were born, no one will ever love you, you'll never make it without me, I never loved you, why can't you be just like your brother.

Helping Youth Deal With Their Pain

Broken homes, broken promises, broken lives. It took everything within me to hold back my tears. My heart was broken as I listened to a young person share her story. I wanted to be strong but at the same time I found myself in the "moment" with her. I could feel her pain, as she verbalized the words spoken over her life. "You're never going to be anything. No one is going to love you. You're going to be just like me". As tears filled her eyes as she expressed how angry and hurt she was, I cried on the inside.

Healing the Soul

Did you know that it's possible for your emotions to freeze in time? Our personal growth and development can be arrested, leaving us unable to experience life at its best. There are many adults today struggling with past hurts. Sincere spirit-filled Christians who love God are also in need of healing. It seems that no matter what they do, there never seems to be any lasting change. 

What could be the problem? There is a realm of people experiencing problems that are not resolved by regular church attendance, prayers or scripture.


I just want to know if you hear what I hear? I know what the economy looks like. I know the race is on for the presidency. I know that many families are struggling. I know homes have been foreclosed. I know people have lost their homes. I know there are those struggling with sickness and disease. 

But can I tell you something? I hear victory.  I don't what the enemy has been telling you. I don't know what voices you've been struggling to overcome. But I want you to know that it's time to declare the victory.

Don't Give Up!!

Ever felt like giving up? What a week this was. I really had to keep it together. One morning  a few weeks ago when I woke up I started thinking about recent disappointments and the tears begin to flow. It seemed like they didn't want to stop. I knew enough to reach out, so I text a very dear friend of mine. 

Her response was a breathe of fresh air. When you're having a morning meltdown, (this is what I like to call it), is there a friend that you can connect with? Is this someone that you can talk too that will let you be in the moment.
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