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Crossroad Women and Family Services, Inc.

Post Office Box 2421, Kingston, NY 12402

Crossroad Women and Family Services, Inc.

"Transforming the Lives of Women Who Transform their World"

Healing Beyond Childhood Trauma

Did you know that most people in the US have at least one ACE? ACE's are adverse childhood experiences that not only causes harm to the brain of children it changes they way they respond to the stresses of life, compromises their immune systems and causes other chronic health conditions over their lifetime. According to a CDC Kaiser Permanente ACE Study childhood trauma and ACE places people at risk for depression, chronic diseases, mental illness, financial problems, social problems and becoming a victim of violence and sexual crimes.

Other ACE surveys have expanded the types of ACE's and those findings while not surprising are also noted below. Below are traumatic experiences linked to social, financial, mental, emotional and physical problems. 

1. A family member who is diagnosed with a mental illness or depressed.

2. Witnessing a mother being abused.

3.A family member who is addicted to drugs or alcohol.

4. Physical, sexual and verbal abuse.

5. A family member who is in prison.

6. Parental separation or divorce.

7. Physical or emotional neglect.

8. Living in an unsafe neighborhood.

9. Experiencing or witnessing racism.

10. Witnessing violence outside of the home.

11. Involvement with the foster care system.

12. Losing a family member due to deportation.

13. Witnessing a father being abused by a mother.

14.Living in a war zone.

15.Being bullied by a peer or adult.

If you have one or more ACE's you are not alone. Research shows that nearly two-third of adults have at least one. Additionally, the scores are even more revealing. For example people with an ACE score of 4 are twice as likely to smoke and seven times more likely to struggle with alcoholism addiction. Additionally, a score of 4 or more is likely to increase the risk of chronic diseases such as emphysema or chronic bronchitis by 400 percent, while also increasing the risk for attempted suicide by 1200. ACE's is also linked to chronic workplace absenteeism, ER visits, mental illness, criminal justice involvement and increased healthcare costs. 

The higher the ACE score the more likely it is that people with these scores have more marriages, violence, drug prescriptions, increased risk for broken bones, greater struggles with depression and autoimmune diseases. Studies show that the life span of individuals with an ACE score 6 or higher are at risk for being shortened by 20 years.

The impact of childhood traumatic experiences doesn't just go away as people age. Rather, what a person has lived through directly or indirectly leaves bits and pieces. Harmful traces of the past that keeps showing up has the ability to be passed down from one generation to the next causing generational cycles of unhealed trauma and strongholds.

While the brain does not know the difference between one kind of traumatic experienced and toxic stress from the other we are not stuck with stressed out brains, painful memories, chronic diseases, mental illness or substance abuse. 

It's essential that people receive an effective diagnosis from an effective team of caring medical professionals who can create qualified treatment plan so the journey to healing and recovery can begin. 

Wishing you health and wellness,

Patrina M Torres, Founder, Totally Healed International 

NCCA Certified Temperament Counselor, Certified Instructor 

School of Counseling, S.A.C.C. Certified Academic Institution


Email: [email protected]


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New book released, "The Exodus Breaking Cycles and Changing Lives"

Posted on February 2, 2012 at 4:51 PM
Happy New Years! Well, we've crossed over in 2012. Another year for "new beginnings".
I believe that 2012 is going to be one of the greatest years ever. A year of surprises, great joy, and breakthroughs. This is also going to be a year of great victory for so many people. I'm very excited about what's taking place. So many new things are happening. Dreams that I've held on to for many years are coming to pass. For instance, I'm in the process of giving birth to a new ministy. It's a process but I am making progress in the process. If you would have told me 12 years ago that I would give birth to a ministry I probably would have said, 'Who me?".... But it's happening. You see, ministry means serving or meeting a need. There are so many needs in society today, but it's important to focus on meeting the need that you were designed or have been called to meet.
How do you know what that need is? What is it that breaks your heart? What problem causes you to say things like, 'Someone needs to do something about that'? What are some problems that you feel you could have a make difference?
Answering these questions can help you discover a problem that you may be part of the solution to. I've learned that our purpose or calling is evident in some of the things we've suffered. In other words, we give birth to purpose through our pain. Because of the horrible things we have been able to overcome we feel a sense obligation and desire to help others. I desire to minister a message of healing and wholeness because I spent so many years with a broken, wounded, bleeding heart. I've struggled with depression, anger, bitterness and low self-esteem. I know what it's like to look for love in all the wrong places. Dsyfunctional relationships, shame, guilt and addiction were some of my closest friends.
But one day, I became sick and tired of being sick and tired. As a result I made the decision to change my life. While I could't change other people, I could work on me by journeying towards healing for myself. And that's exactly what I did. And I encourage you to do the same.
If you are struggling with memories of a painful past and emotional damage know that you can have a good life. You can be made whole. I know sometimes it feels like your life will never change, but that's not true. My life has been transformed. The changes that I have made lasted. While I am not perfect, I believe in the power of change. You have that power on the inside of you. Everything that you need to become the person you were born to be is already inside of you. You just have to call it forth.
I want to take this opportunity to tell you about my new book. It was released December 2011 and published by The title of the book is, The Exodus Breaking Cycles and Changing Lives: Repositioning Your Soul to Thrive After Domestic Violence.
I wrote this book to spread a  message of hope, healing and help to victims and survivors of abuse. I teach you how to reposition your soul (your mind, will and emotions) for healing so that you can prosper and be in good health even as your soul prospers.  You will learn  biblical-based principles that will help you to embrace your season of preparation. Who wants to live life in survival mode? That's not how your life was designed to be lived. You can have a life of joy, peace, healing, and contentment. You can thrive, flourish, prosper and succeed in every area of your life. Are you ready to reposition yourself for success? Get your copy of  The Exodus Breaking Cycles and Changing Lives today!
You can purchase your copy online at the following retailers:,, The ISBN#9781462068470. For more information feel free to email me at [email protected], I'd love to hear from:)

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10:41 AM on April 24, 2012 
The book is a breakthrough! Helped me fix many inner problems.
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